By LJ Ober
Featured in Life Hack
Are you someone who feels more of their true self when no one else is around, as opposed to being in the presence of others?
I don’t know about you, but I personally feel more relaxed, laid back, and maybe a bit silly when I am home alone with just me and the dog! I am giddy, unguarded, and YES…I talk to myself, sing to the dog and call her silly names! (I think she likes it.) Because for some reason, when I am alone I feel more like my true authentic self rather than in social situations.
Young children seem to get it right better than many of us adults do when it comes to being their true authentic self. They sing, laugh, dance and live with an abundance of energy and with no worries of whether anyone else is watching or of what anyone could potentially think of them.
As adults we are more on guard than children are in social situations because conversations with others can lead us to feel assorted emotions with many shades of gray in between. Since we have a desire to bond and be accepted by other people, we self-consciously watch what we say, how we say it and decide whether to be agreeable or complacent. Plus we sub-consciously study the other person’s body language to judge the authenticity of the person and of how the conversation is making us feel in that particular moment.
There will always be those types of individuals with a stronger personality, who often tend to make some others feel inferior by emanating more of an intense negative vibe. It is the friction between their ego fighting against ours that can make us feel uncomfortable or imbalanced either emotionally or physically, bringing us down energetically. Because those who are unhappy with themselves can sometimes have a way seeing people in a negative light, that they themselves are hiding behind.
Have you ever heard the saying that...
“It is none of your business of what other people think about you” ? What others think about us is simply a theory and opinion,…not a fact and is rarely true. It is usually them and their inability to make others feel welcomed, so it is best to not take it personally, right? Because how well do others truly know us? Or know what we’ve been through in life, not to mention our thoughts, intentions, plans or desires. Who are they, those who judge, and who are we to let ourselves be judged? Everyone puts their pants on the same way, yet we all wear them a little different.
You have a choice of whether or not to take on the belief of what others think or say about you. Basically, you need to ignore it or risk feeling any potential imbalance because of it. It is up to you to protect your power and energy by rejecting any uncomfortable ease pointed towards you.
In other words... ignore it and do not make it any of your business of what others think about you. Period.
Four key factors that have an affect on the way other people can potentially make you feel:
You may not have the total control of how another person’s energy can make you feel at any given moment, but you can be on guard and shield yourself by protecting your Aura.
If necessary, when you are around certain people that you sense can drain your energy in any way, shape or form, pause and put up an invisible protective shield around yourself to protect your aura and guard against the other persons negative input or vibe. Think of it as a way of rejecting or deflecting what other people are reflecting upon you. Whatever it be the words or a bad vibe would just simply bounce away from your energy field, protecting you from ill will and help you to protect your positive energy.
You are the bigger person with a clearer insight knowing how and when to be of comfort to others,…or who is in need…and who deserves the comfort that you can give them. Be your true real self! No one can take your power away unless you let them. You get one life to live as who you are now! And if no one has told you lately…you are perfect just the way you are! ttyl
4/27/2019 01:36:43 pm
Somehow I admire the freedom of the young children in their self expression. I feel it will be nice to feel this authentic not just when alone but also to be in control of my social situations. I have struggled here but thanks to this blog post. It has helped reawaken the self confidence I lacked
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